Things people have said to me....

While I realize this is probably NOT the correct thing to do it is something I find helps me deal with the things people have said to me about Trinity.   Anyone caught off guard and not prepared can find themselves becoming offended, hurt, mad, defensive and anything else you can think of.  While NONE of these people have said these things to hurt us or be malicious it has always taken me by surprise.  I realize now that people say them for various reasons, but the main one just being ignorance.    So this ongoing posting is not only here to help me deal with the words, but also deal with my reactions and learn to better handle situations so that I can educate rather than alienate.

Situation #1
My girlfriend upon meeting Trinity for the first time, and not knowing she had Down syndrome, laughed and said to me..."Does your husband know you slept with an Asian man?"

Situation #2
We were at a birthday party and some one's teenage daughter says to me...."So when did you get her?" (meaning when did we adopt her.)

Situation #3
A group of co-workers and I were out to lunch and one of the ladies in trying to "sympathize" with me says...
"I was at "theme park" and I saw this kid and he looked like he had Down syndrome. He was admiring a baby in a stroller and then just started pushing the stroller away.  His Dad ran up behind him and told him that he needed to take the baby back to the mother, that the baby was not his.  All of a sudden the kid started screaming and flapping his arms..."  this is when I left the table in tears so I don't know the rest"

 Hospital Worker - Oh, I expected you to be an Asian family like from Taiwan.

Hospital worker - Is she adopted?